Today's Events

It has been a few days since I wrote, but something has come to light that I have to share.  It is a perfect example of how I have been cut out of the lives of my kids, how they have been poisoned against me, and how the system works against non-custodial Fathers.

My son received an award at school last week and I just found out about it today.  By accident.  I happened to be looking at the school website and I saw a picture of him standing there with his award certificate.  Whether it was that he was not allowed to share it with me or chose not to share it himself, there is nothing more hurtful than missing something like this for one of my kids.  I made a call to the school and found out that a letter was sent home with him two days before the "ceremony" was to be held.  I was not told about it and I was not given any opportunity to even tell my son that I was proud of him.

I asked the school secretary for a copy of the letter and I was told "I will check and see if we still have a copy of it and I will call you back and let you know."  I even offered my personal fax number and asked if they would send it to me.  I received no response, no call back, no fax.  The school administrators just don't care if you are not the custodial parent.  There are so very few school administrators that are helpful at all.

This is so frustrating.  I am fighting hard not to believe that my kids have been so influenced against me that my son would not want to share this with me.  But after a recent conversation I had with him where I reminded him that he can call me, text me or email me anytime that he wants to, I don't know what to think.  He agreed to let me know anytime that anything significant came up.  And then I see this and I was completely cut out of it.  It hurts in a way that only a Father would understand.

My wife stands by me and agrees about how wrong this is.  When something like this happens to me, she shares in my grief, my pain and my disappointment.  She knows that I deserve better than this.  But there are just too many stereotypes in the system.  School administrators think "this is just another jerk ex-husband trying to harass his ex" and they refuse to help.  There is no help for an honest Father who loves his kids and just wants to be included and involved in their lives.